bgs1372
So I have a wedding to do on Feb 22 and the bride is not very into her own reception. Her parents are paying for the reception.
I have met with her mom and dad and they seem like fun people. The Bride did not show up to the meeting because of weather conditions. So I worked out all the details with her mom and dad. The bride does not want introductions, speeches, garter toss, bouquet toss, or any of that stuff. She also doesn't want any Bride & Groom dances or any of that stuff. Her mom said its gonna be just a big party. Her dad plays guitar so they would like some good classic rock. So no problem there its sounds like a good time. She said her daughter liked current dance music. So I thought this will be a great night.
I sent the bride an email to ask if she had any song requests thinking she would want some JLO, Pitbul, Flo Rida kind of stuff. Here is the email reply I got from the bride.
"Hey Derek
Just whatever is fine
We don't really have any requests. It'd be nice to have some slower more mellow songs.
There is nothing we would like to add. You don't need to introduce any one or anything like that. It will be a very subtle event."
I read this and I am thinking WTF... Most brides have a number of requests for me and most of them are fun songs.
So what do I do with this info. I don't want to play slower mellow songs at a wedding reception. Especially at the end I want the dance floor
rocking.
Any advice on the bring me down bride. I could play all mellow songs and then we could all cry..lol
I don't want other guests to think these are my choices. Most of my gigs come form people at weddings I have done ask me to do
their wedding or someone they knows wedding.
I have met with her mom and dad and they seem like fun people. The Bride did not show up to the meeting because of weather conditions. So I worked out all the details with her mom and dad. The bride does not want introductions, speeches, garter toss, bouquet toss, or any of that stuff. She also doesn't want any Bride & Groom dances or any of that stuff. Her mom said its gonna be just a big party. Her dad plays guitar so they would like some good classic rock. So no problem there its sounds like a good time. She said her daughter liked current dance music. So I thought this will be a great night.
I sent the bride an email to ask if she had any song requests thinking she would want some JLO, Pitbul, Flo Rida kind of stuff. Here is the email reply I got from the bride.
"Hey Derek
Just whatever is fine
We don't really have any requests. It'd be nice to have some slower more mellow songs.
There is nothing we would like to add. You don't need to introduce any one or anything like that. It will be a very subtle event."
I read this and I am thinking WTF... Most brides have a number of requests for me and most of them are fun songs.
So what do I do with this info. I don't want to play slower mellow songs at a wedding reception. Especially at the end I want the dance floor
rocking.
Any advice on the bring me down bride. I could play all mellow songs and then we could all cry..lol
I don't want other guests to think these are my choices. Most of my gigs come form people at weddings I have done ask me to do
their wedding or someone they knows wedding.
Posted Sat 09 Feb 13 @ 11:14 am
Tear Em 'Up
#1) Print out all emails with the bride, and bring them to the event. #2) If you have any correspondence with the parents, who are paying you, print those out as well. #3) Read the room, just like always. Then, if anyone complains, show them the e-mails. Otherwise, just do the job....
Posted Sat 09 Feb 13 @ 11:19 am
danielsr2006
Yes just reading the crowd will be the best you could do. Got to be prepared for the vibe to go in any direction...
Posted Sat 09 Feb 13 @ 11:43 am
JoeyKJ
Look at it as a good opportunity for you to shine, having total control..
Start with the mellow stuff and build from there based on the crowd, I believe they will appreciate you more thin you think, but your skills is key...
Start with the mellow stuff and build from there based on the crowd, I believe they will appreciate you more thin you think, but your skills is key...
Posted Sat 09 Feb 13 @ 12:16 pm
dj latin lou
Did you ask the bride or parents if it's ok to take requests from the guests? I also ask if there are any genre of music they don't care for.
Posted Sun 10 Feb 13 @ 12:25 pm
freppa
I have done numbers of weddings, and have always done like Terry telling you to do.
#1) Print out all emails with the bride, and bring them to the event.
#2) If you have any correspondence with the parents, who are paying you, print those out as well.
#3) Read the room, just like always.
And, take requests..show the guests the printed emails if you get bad respons.
#1) Print out all emails with the bride, and bring them to the event.
#2) If you have any correspondence with the parents, who are paying you, print those out as well.
#3) Read the room, just like always.
And, take requests..show the guests the printed emails if you get bad respons.
Posted Sun 10 Feb 13 @ 1:22 pm
A Man and His Music
JoeyKJ wrote :
Look at it as a good opportunity for you to shine, having total control..
Start with the mellow stuff and build from there based on the crowd, I believe they will appreciate you more thin you think, but your skills is key...
Start with the mellow stuff and build from there based on the crowd, I believe they will appreciate you more thin you think, but your skills is key...
Pow, nothing but net. Is this an open bar? If so, I would not worry. BBBBBBuuuuuuuuuuuutttttttttt....it sonunds as if there could be something else going on. Just be prepared.
Posted Sun 10 Feb 13 @ 10:36 pm
Zamooda
So I have had a few like this and here are a couple of ways to handle it.
Def Print out ALL correspondence between you, and the parents, and the bride, as previously mentioned.
Choice 1: follow exactly what she wants. use the paperwork as your escape route and don't put any of your cards out, lol
Choice B: I would do your normal routine. Maybe slightly modified to her standard. If this was me I would keep my cocktail hour mid-tempo and newer if the crowd permits. Dinner: if its a sit down dinner I would just cater to her and play super popular slow songs in between the first and second course. between the second and third I would play some motown. if they bite, stay with your flow, whatever your normal programming would be, if they dont; super popular slow jams. from there, again it all depends on the crowd, its gonna be your call, so feel it out and good luck. My point is, I would try to get the crowd moving, you were hired because of what your known for doing, not for what you don't do. That doesnt mean you shouldn't bend, I just don't think you should break. you just have to be smart about it.
The only other thing that may go against you is (and you didnt mention it in the post) how many people will be there. For some strange feeling I think its going to be under 100, which is sometimes really tough.
Def Print out ALL correspondence between you, and the parents, and the bride, as previously mentioned.
Choice 1: follow exactly what she wants. use the paperwork as your escape route and don't put any of your cards out, lol
Choice B: I would do your normal routine. Maybe slightly modified to her standard. If this was me I would keep my cocktail hour mid-tempo and newer if the crowd permits. Dinner: if its a sit down dinner I would just cater to her and play super popular slow songs in between the first and second course. between the second and third I would play some motown. if they bite, stay with your flow, whatever your normal programming would be, if they dont; super popular slow jams. from there, again it all depends on the crowd, its gonna be your call, so feel it out and good luck. My point is, I would try to get the crowd moving, you were hired because of what your known for doing, not for what you don't do. That doesnt mean you shouldn't bend, I just don't think you should break. you just have to be smart about it.
The only other thing that may go against you is (and you didnt mention it in the post) how many people will be there. For some strange feeling I think its going to be under 100, which is sometimes really tough.
Posted Sun 10 Feb 13 @ 11:50 pm
Caliente123
That event is realy easy to do. For song selection, Just ask here what she likes to listen to. Tell her to give you examples and then you build your play list from there. If they dont want to do the extras, Better for you.. They just want to dance and have fun..
Posted Mon 11 Feb 13 @ 1:27 am